Sex and gender stereotyping in the Asian American community

One of the many problems I see in the Asian American community is the issue of sex and gender stereotyping. Often time I encounter this in my own family who tries to reinforce the notions of what it means to be a man and woman based on the Asian American culture. It also runs to the fact that living in a western culture, it runs into a conflict of what it means to be a man and a woman when you have asian american culture that conflicts with the notions of what men and women are and what they are suppose to do.

I see this all the time in my own Asian American and Laotian American family because they often times tries to reinforce what it means to be a man, when the notion of manhood conflicts with western culture. Which as a result puts me at odds with the Asian American and Laotian American culture that reinforces what it means to be a man vs western culture that allows independence and and expression. Which is why in the Asian American and Laotian American community, it’s often hard to be yourself and be who you are when you have two cultures in conflict where one demands you fit the ideals of what it means to be a man in the Asian American and Laotian American culture vs being in a western culture and  independent and being able to express yourself.

That’s why I notice how so many of the younger Americanized Asian American and Laotian Americans who want to break free of the immigrant Asian American and Laotian American culture because it’s repressive, oppressive and it doesn’t allow Asian American and Laotian American to be themselves and who they are. Many Asian American and Laotian American struggle with this notion of what it means to be a man or a woman in a western society that conflicts with traditional Asian American and Laotian American ideals of what it means to be a man or a woman. That is because the immigrant Asian American and Laotian American still bring those old sex and gender stereotypes when they come to a place like America and it cause many conflicts on what it means to be a man or a woman.

That’s why for me as an Intersex person in the Asian American and Laotian American community. I am always at odds with my Asian American and Laotian American folks on what it means to be a man or a woman because they bring the old immigrant Asian American and Laotian American notions on what it means to be a man or a woman in a western culture like America where people are independent and free to be who they want to be. It’s why it’s always hard to be myself as an Asian American and Laotian American intersex person when you have pressures from your Asian American and Laotian American folks who want to you to conform to what it means to be an Asian American and Laotian American male. When you live in a western culture of independence and individuality.

It’s why independence and individuality is always a very hard issue for the Asian American and Laotian American community because the fact they bring the old world culture and stereotypes into a western culture that frowns on independence and individuality. A good example of that is where my Asian American and Laotian American folks think that guys who wear tight clothes or tank tops are gay or they want to be a woman. Their notion is that they think only women wear tight clothes and tank tops. Another notion that is stuck in the Asian American and Laotian American community is the stereotypes that men can do this and women can only do that. Such as when they see women as police officers, firefighters and pilots, it conflicts their notions on what men and women do and often times are shocked that western culture allows that. That’s why I often times have to educate my Asian American and Laotian American folks that western culture they are in is different and many things are more tolerant that what they have back home.

It’s why it’s hard to be myself, independent and as an individual in the Asian American and Laotian American community when they reinforce the notions and stereotypes on what it means to be a man or a woman in the Asian American and Laotian American community. It’s this conflict between the western culture of independence and individualism vs sex and gender stereotypes on what it means to be man or a woman. That’s why many younger americanized Asian American and Laotian American, try to break free of the repressive, immigrant Asian American and Laotian American notions of men and women because it doesn’t allow independence and individuality.