The one thing I talked about with my doctor yesterday being born with Kallmann’s Syndrome and being Intersex is the fact that I look way too much younger than my age. At 41 yrs old and being an Asian American and an Intersex person, I look way younger looking than my age. I am often times mistaken for being a 25 yr old in a 41 yr old body. Being able to look younger than your age has many perks and benefits but it often does come with a heavy price that I pay dearly for.
The biggest thing I pay for looking young at my age is the fact that I often times have people think I look way too young to be doing things. When people see me and don’t know how old I am, I am oftentimes assumed to be way younger than my actual age. Many times people often assume that I am 25 yrs old and when I reveal how old I am, people get shocked and often wonder how I can look so young at 41 yrs old. Often times the shock comes from women because women in society try everything in vain to look forever young but often fall short. For me, being that I have Kallmann’s Syndrome and an Intersex condition, I have the ability to look young no matter how old I am.
It’s why the downside of looking so young at my age is that people don’t take me very seriously as a person. People think and assume, that I am way too young to handle any job or leadership position. Being younger looking than my age, people often times ignore what I have to say or what my opinions are because they think I am not old enough to speak my mind. On the worst side of looking young, when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships, many biological women have skipped over me, all because I look way younger than my age and they think they are dating a young adult or a teenager. It’s why I don’t date and I stopped looking for a relationship.
Even when it comes to the workplace, looking younger than your age is very detrimental on me. That is because many times when I apply for work or interview for a job. Many Hiring people will skip over me or past over me because I look too young looking for the job and some think I look too young to be working for them. It’s why not many places I tried to apply for work, won’t give me a chance because I look way younger looking than my age and some employers think and assume I am way too young for them.
It even extended when I was in college as well. being younger looking than my age in college, was often very hard on me because when people found out how old I was. People have excluded me from playing sports, being part of a campus club or leading a group. It put a damper on my college experience because of the fact that on top of my Intersex condition, being deaf in one ear made me feel like I was being left out of all the normal college experiences. Which is why my College experience was not normal like everyone else and mine was largely excluded and doing my own thing.
It’s why, when it comes to trying to speak on an issue that is happening in society, many times people think I am way too young to speak up or that my views or opinions don’t matter because I look way to young for my age. It’s why I don’t speak up as much because society has this assumption that I am way too young to speak up and won’t even recognize my views, opinions and beliefs. It’s also why I often times hated groups mainly because my views, voice and opinions are never valued and respected. It’s always shoved in the corner and often times silenced
It’s why many times being younger looking than your actual age has a price that many people don’t understand or fail to realize. Mines, I pay dearly because I have Kallmann’s syndrome and I’m Asian American. I pay it in the worse way because people think I am way too young to be doing things & often times people assume I’m not old enough to be at the age I am in. It’s why I often tell people that being an Intersex person with Kallmann’s Syndrome ain’t fun and it often comes with a price that you have to pay and bear for the rest of your life. In my case, I’m always gona be pegged as looking way younger no matter how old I get. So when I get in my 50’s and 60’s i’m always gona get accused of looking younger than my age.
It’s why people who think that looking younger than your age is great. Just think what you pay for looking younger than your age because for me, looking younger than my age, I pay the heaviest price for that and something I am gona have to deal with for the rest of my life. It’s not easy when you’re 41 old and you look more like a 25 or even 23 yr old. Then you factor that I have Kallmann’s Syndrome, Vitiligo, being deaf in one ear and also being an Asian American. That’s a lot I pay for being able to be look 10 to 15 years younger than my age at 41 yrs old.