Tag: Intersex

The price of looking young

The one thing I talked about with my doctor yesterday being born with Kallmann’s Syndrome and being Intersex is the fact that I look way too much younger than my age. At 41 yrs old and being an Asian American and an Intersex person, I look way younger looking than my age. I am often times mistaken for being a 25 yr old in a 41 yr old body. Being able to look younger than your age has many perks and benefits but it often does come with a heavy price that I pay dearly for.

The biggest thing I pay for looking young at my age is the fact that I often times have people think I look way too young to be doing things. When people see me and don’t know how old I am, I am oftentimes assumed to be way younger than my actual age. Many times people often assume that I am 25 yrs old and when I reveal how old I am, people get shocked and often wonder how I can look so young at 41 yrs old. Often times the shock comes from women because women in society try everything in vain to look forever young but often fall short. For me, being that I have Kallmann’s Syndrome and an Intersex condition, I have the ability to look young no matter how old I am.

It’s why the downside of looking so young at my age is that people don’t take me very seriously as a person. People think and assume, that I am way too young to handle any job or leadership position. Being younger looking than my age, people often times ignore what I have to say or what my opinions are because they think I am not old enough to speak my mind. On the worst side of looking young, when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships, many biological women have skipped over me, all because I look way younger than my age and they think they are dating a young adult or a teenager. It’s why I don’t date and I stopped looking for a relationship.

Even when it comes to the workplace, looking younger than your age is very detrimental on me. That is because many times when I apply for work or interview for a job. Many Hiring people will skip over me or past over me because I look too young looking for the job and some think I look too young to be working for them. It’s why not many places I tried to apply for work, won’t give me a chance because I look way younger looking than my age and some employers think and assume I am way too young for them.

It even extended when I was in college as well. being younger looking than my age in college, was often very hard on me because when people found out how old I was. People have excluded me from playing sports, being part of a campus club or leading a group. It put a damper on my college experience because of the fact that on top of my Intersex condition, being deaf in one ear made me feel like I was being left out of all the normal college experiences. Which is why my College experience was not normal like everyone else and mine was largely excluded and doing my own thing.

It’s why, when it comes to trying to speak on an issue that is happening in society, many times people think I am way too young to speak up or that my views or opinions don’t matter because I look way to young for my age. It’s why I don’t speak up as much because society has this assumption that I am way too young to speak up and won’t even recognize my views, opinions and beliefs. It’s also why I often times hated groups mainly because my views, voice and opinions are never valued and respected. It’s always shoved in the corner and often times silenced

It’s why many times being younger looking than your actual age has a price that many people don’t understand or fail to realize. Mines, I pay dearly because I have Kallmann’s syndrome and I’m Asian American. I pay it in the worse way because people think I am way too young to be doing things & often times people assume I’m not old enough to be at the age I am in. It’s why I often tell people that being an Intersex person with Kallmann’s Syndrome ain’t fun and it often comes with a price that you have to pay and bear for the rest of your life. In my case, I’m always gona be pegged as looking way younger no matter how old I get. So when I get in my 50’s and 60’s i’m always gona get accused of looking younger than my age.

It’s why people who think that looking younger than your age is great. Just think what you pay for looking younger than your age because for me, looking younger than my age, I pay the heaviest price for that and something I am gona have to deal with for the rest of my life. It’s not easy when you’re 41 old and you look more like a 25 or even 23 yr old. Then you factor that I have Kallmann’s Syndrome, Vitiligo, being deaf in one ear and also being an Asian American. That’s a lot I pay for being able to be look 10 to 15 years younger than my age at 41 yrs old.

Why dating and relationships sucks if your Intersex

In my lifetime on this planet, there have been many things I have missed out on this planet. Mainly of course I missed out of the many things I should have done such as having a career, a wife, family, and a stable home. Instead, I missed out many of those things, mainly because being an Intersex person who has Kallmann’s syndrome. One of the most important things I missed out on life the most is the fact that I don’t date, have a girlfriend or in a relationship. I missed out on that part of life, mainly because having an intersex condition such as Kallmann’s syndrome, makes dating and a relationship and barrier that I will never cross, while i’m on this planet.

Why I missed out on dating and relationships is mainly because many women have looked at me as being too young looking for them. Many women have skipped pass me mainly because I look to young for them and that I look way younger than my actual age. On top of that, having a micropenis makes having sex virtually impossible for me and excludes me the chances of having a kid in the future. When it comes to myself, I don’t act like the typical normal man or normal woman. Even when it comes to dressing up, I don’t dress like a normal man or normal woman. I try to dress gender neutral as much as I can. The real reason why I miss out on Dating and Relationships is mainly because as an Intersex person, i’m largely hidden and no one notices me until I make a noise.

Which is why, when it comes to dating and relationships, I doubt women on this planet would want to deal with someone who’s born with an Intersex condition and has so many medical issues such as being born deaf in one ear, being sterile, having a micropenis and ambiguous genitals and even having some breast development. Taken all that, it largely puts me out of the dating and relationship pool and makes me invisible because of my medical issues and being excluded from everything that is normal on this planet. It’s why because of all my issues I have to deal with in life, dating and relationships are something that’s never gona happen in my lifetime on this planet.

It’s why to this day at a ripe old age of 41 yrs old, I am still single as an Intersex person. I’ve managed to this day stay largely single because of my Intersex condition and largely be ignored in the dating and relationship pool. It’s why after 40, I completely stopped trying to pass this dating and relationship barrier because I come to realize that it’s not in my cards or my future. I know it’s never gona happen no matter how hard I try to get into the dating and relationship pool. I know that not many women are willing to overlook my Intersex condition and my medical issues. It’s also why being disabled, disabled people have a hard time breaking into the dating and relationship scene and are largely pushed out because they are not normal.

Which is why I don’t date or have a girlfriend and I’m largely excluded from the dating and relationship pool. I know it ain’t gona happen anytime soon and I doubt it’s gona happen in the near future. It’s why, when I watch others who are into dating and having a girlfriend or a boyfriend, I often get jealous that as an Intersex person, i’m missing out on that part of life I should have and could have done but I’m not. Oh well, maybe in my next life, things will be normal for me.

What it means to be Intersex in the US Military

Ever since President Donald Trump has announced on Twitter yesterday that he’s banning Transgender people from serving in the US Military. What many people don’t understand that US Military service is not a right or a social experiment. The US Military is in the business of defending this country and winning wars. It’s a privilege for those who put on the uniform and defend the nation. It’s no different from me as an Intersex person who is serving with the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member. Being an intersex person in the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member is a privilege and a huge honor for me.

What many people in this country don’t understand is that you can be rejected for military service in either Active Duty, reserves and National guard for a number of reasons such as having flat feet, Mental illness, Depression, Diabetes, having Seizures and even transexualism can all diqualify you from serving in the US Military. Even being an Intersex person, I am barred from going into Active Duty, reserves and National guard but I am still able to serve in the US Military with the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member. That is because in the US Coast Guard Auxiliary, there is NO medical requirement to serve and the Minimum age to sign up is 17 yrs old. It’s why the United States Coast Guard affords me the opportunity as an Intersex person to serve my country and contribute to the defense of the nation as an Auxiliary member.

Being an Intersex person in the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member, I am no different than everyone else. I just happen to be born with an Intersex condition and i’m also deaf in one ear. It doesn’t hinder me in completing the missions that the US Coast Guard sets out for Auxiliary members and I even work side by side with the Gold side, aka Active and reserve side of the US Coast Guard. In my part with the US Coast Guard, I’m a vessel Examiner and I help the US Coast Guard Inspect vessels for them and on behalf of the United States Coast Guard. On top of that, I am one of the very few Intersex people who is working on getting Boat crew qualified, Public Affairs qualified and getting the active duty Marine Safety and environmental protection qualified as well. Not many Intersex people can say they can do this with the US Military and especially with the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member.

It’s why when President Donald Trump banned Trans people from serving in the US Military, he’s doing so on cost grounds and the fact that we are fighting radical islamic terrorist. Terrorist or the enemy don’t care about your gender, pronouns, race, sex, gender or gender ID. On top of that, taxpayers can’t afford to pay for someone to come into the military, just to have SRS. It’s why trans have a very high suicide rate and that alone is why Trans are barred from serving in the US Military. Why would the US taxpayers want some trans in a Military uniform who has a very high suicide rate and would put the troops, unit or ship at risk. It’s why President Donald Trump was right in getting rid of President Obama’s Trans policy because the risk is too much for the Military to bear during the war.

It’s why being an Intersex person, I’m largely scott free from the Trans debate in the US Military mainly because being in the US Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member. I get to do things in the US Coast Guard and I am not subjected to the Dept of Defense’s medical standards. In the US Coast Guard, as an Auxiliary member, I can do anything the US Coast Guard ask of me as long as I am physically capable of performing the Mission and it’s not gona hinder the Active and reserve side of the US Coast Guard. That’s why I am so fortunate and lucky enough that the US Coast Guard has the Auxiliary program and as an Intersex person, I can contribute my part to the overall US Coast Guard Mission and the defense of the Nation as well. It has a place for people who can’t meet the Enlistment standards for the Active, reserve and National Guard of the US Military and I’m able to be part of that, as an Auxiliary member

Here’s some fun facts the US Coast Guard Auxiliary dose

Here’s what the US Coast Guard Auxiliary dose for the Nation

This is what an Intersex person serving in the United States Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member looks like

Getting ready to do som VSC's for the USCG #uscg #uscgaux

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This is doing my part to keep the Nation safe and free

Out, doing VSC's for the US Coast Guard #uscg #uscgaux #self

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It’s why being an Intersex person and a deaf person in the US Military with the US Coast Guard as an Auxiliary member is not a barrier for me from serving my country and contributing my part in the defense of the Nation.