What many people don’t get or understand is that, when people who throw the Intersex card or try to use the Intersex community to justify their arguments or ideology. They don’t seem to see the full implications of what it REALLY means to be born with an Intersex condition. Many in the Trans, LGBTQ and queer community have this false sense or notions of what it means to be Intersex and many seem to think that being an Intersex person or having an Intersex condition is either a sex, gender, genitals or having to do something to do with sexual orientation or gender identity. The reality here is that, none of those things I listed, have anything to do with being intersex or having an Intersex medical condition. Being an Intersex person myself and having Kallmann’s syndrome, my intersex condition is not a sex, gender, genitals, gender identity or a sexual orientation. It’s a medical condition I’m born with from birth and it’s something I have to deal with for the rest of my life.
The many things I have noticed coming from the Trans, queer and LGBTQ community is that they are hell bent on sexualizing, fetishizing and even trying to reduce Intersex people and their Intersex conditions to a sex, gender, genitals, gender identity or a sexual orientation. It’s basically they are trying and are hell bent on erasing Intersex people and trying their damn hardest to force SRS on vulnerable Intersex kids. As I see this as an Intersex person who has Kallmann’s syndrome, It pisses me off, raises my blood pressure and often times get’s me very angry when you see the Trans, queer and LGBTQ community trying to erase, hijack and co-opt my Intersex condition and what it REALLY means to be Intersex and have an Intersex condition such as Kallmann’s syndrome.
What even bothers me is how so many Trans, queer and LGBTQ community don’t full understand what it means to be intersex and what it FULLY means to have an Intersex condition such as Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome, Turners Syndrome, CAH, Klinefeltners and Kallmann’s syndrome. They don’t seem to see is that, all the Intersex conditions have major side affects and major health issues that are not sexy, glamorous or even cool. Even some Intersex conditions have life threatening issues that can even harm you in any stage of life.
Even for me, as an Intersex person who has Kallmann’s syndrome, I have to deal with so much in my life and dealing with having Kallmann’s syndrome, such as being Deaf in one ear. Having no functioning pituitary gland in the brain. Having no sense of Smell. Having to deal with Vitiligo, which shows up as white patches on my skin. Having the smallest Micropenis, which I barely notice unless it get’s stiff and hard. Knowing the fact that I have to wear a bra because I am developing Gynecomastia. On top of all that, knowing that I can’t produce and get a woman pregnant and have a family of my own. Above everything else, I am on blood pressure medication. I’m also taking Androderm medication, which is testosterone replacement for the rest of my life. After all that, if people in the Trans, queer and LGBTQ community think that having to deal with my Intersex condition is sex, cool, hip or trendy. I’d be very glad to let them try my intersex condition and let the feel what’s it like. Then get back to me and let me know if you think it’s hip, sexy, cool or trendy to claim what I have.
I tell people, it’s not very easy being Intersex. It’s very difficult because you have so many medical issues on top of the social issues of being Intersex and having an Intersex condition such as Kallmann’s syndrome. When you have so many medical issues that I have, sex and gender are the very dead last thing I will ever have to deal with. It’s why as an Intersex person who has Kallmann’s Syndrome, I don’t care or give two shits if someone calls me sir or Ma’am. I don’t care if someone misgenders me or assumes I’m male. In reality, I know I’m never gona be a biological MAN or a Biological woman no matter how much Medical science tries. All I know is that I’m an Intersex person who has Kallmann’s syndrome and is a biological indeterminate sex and gender. It’s what I have to deal with for the rest of my life.
Now you tell me, if you think it’s easy to be intersex or you think that claiming something that you think will lend any legitimacy or justify any arguments is easy. I’ll be very glad to let you try all my medical issues that are associated with Kallmann’s syndrome or for that matter any other Intersex condition. The reality is that it’s not fun and many in the Trans, queer and LGBTQ community don’t seem to understand and no matter how hard you try to get through to them. They are still stuck on this sex, gender, genitals, gender identity or a sexual orientation assumption about Intersex people and the Intersex community that is so damn harmful and down right disgusting. It pisses me off and the reality for me is that I have to deal with the bullshit and crap that the Trans, queer and LGBTQ community perpetuates about Intersex people and the Intersex community.