Tag: Intersex

What I learned as an Undergraduate in College

Now that I am a college graduate, there are many things I have learned in my undergraduate college at Eastern Connecticut State University. Some social and some that scared me. Being a Disabled college student was often times very tough because the fact that not many people were so accommodating towards disabled college student. Even being an Intersex person in college was also a challenge because of how binary the campus was and that being neither male or female made it hard to fit in on campus was a challenge. It’s why College was a challenge in itself but I was able to adapt and overcome them.

One of the many things that was always a struggle in college was that being a disabled college student, it made it very hard to be included and part of the campus community. In a normal college, I was always treated as a 2nd class college student and not like every other college student. With my disability, I never had the chance to join any clubs on campus or play any sports. That is because being disabled, not many people don’t want to give disabled people a chance. That’s why being disabled, limited my social contact on campus. I didn’t even have too many friends on campus and only had very few friends.

The one thing I fault Eastern Connecticut State University is that they didn’t do enough to help disabled students be more inclusive and didn’t force on campus clubs to be more inclusive towards disabled people. They didn’t even try to help disabled students be more inclusive on campus. It was why being disabled on campus often felt a very lonely place, but I adapted and found a niche in the disability office. That is because the disability office on campus took care of me and was the only place on campus I called Home.

The other thing that was a challenge on campus is that being an Intersex person on campus, I never fitted in with the Men or women. I never felt any connection to any man or woman on campus. I was always different from everyone else and that being born with an Intersex condition, I never identified with the men or women. That is why being an intersex person was sometimes hard on campus because of the fact not many people understood what Intersex is and what it means to be born intersex. Many times on campus, people have confused and mistaken with transgender people.

Though what was great about being Intersex at Eastern Connecticut State University was the fact that I can be myself and not forced into the male and female crap. I can wear whatever clothes I want and be myself without being pressured or judged. At the same time, I had my own dorm on campus and didn’t have to deal with the crap that men and women deal with living in the dorms. That allowed me to be myself and have the kind of independence to be myself and not stressed out.

That’s why, what I learned at Eastern Connecticut State University was the fact that I don’t need clubs to be myself. It allowed me to grow my own independence streak and let me be me. Though I wished I had time to make more friends, be part of clubs or sports. But instead, I was able to learn to be independent and learn to be myself without being stressed or pressured by society or people. That’s something that Eastern Connecticut State University has taught me on campus.

My 40th Birthday

My 40th birthday on campus #self

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Yes I turned 40 yrs old today and Yeah, I don’t look 40 at all. All thanks to being born with an Intersex condition and being Asian American. Those have helped me to look way younger than my age and able to look way young no matter how old I get. So yeah I hit the big 40 and it’s nothing but a number because I don’t look like that age at all.

I finally made it

2016-05-14 14.08.33-1On Friday, I finished my last undergraduate exam for my undergraduate college career and I am looking forward to graduate from Eastern Connecticut State University on Tuesday. I can pretty much say it took me along time since 1994 but now I am finally reached a milestone in life and Now on Tuesday I will have my Bachelors of Arts in History and Social Science with a double Minor in Asian Studies and Public Health. It’s one of my proudest achievements in life. The other is that I am going to be one of very few Intersex person and deaf/hard of hearing who will graduate from college. Which is very rare to have an intersex person and deaf/hard of hearing person graduate from college. It’s going to be one of the best days of my life.

My Plans now is to go to post bac school to get my science classes down before I enter Nursing or Physician Assistant school. At the same time I am going to be getting back into the EMS field and get my clinical skills down before I go to Nursing or Physician Assistant school. I hope to have my Nursing or Physician Assistant license by 2019.

On top of all that, On Monday I turn 40 years old. Yes, I am I am turning 40 years old and I don’t look like a 40 yr old and never will. It’s a shocker that I made it this far in my life and made it where I want to be. It’s a shocker that I have outlasted everyone and I guess my secret is never GIVE UP and always fight for what you believe in. The world doesn’t like quitters and always like winners.

So now, I’m leaving ya with this song that sums up my time at Eastern Connecticut State University.